When writing your characters’ backstories, don’t forget about personality disorders!
7 CHARACTERISTICS OF A COVERT NARCISSIST: THE MOST DANGEROUS KIND by Caroline Strawson.
She says, “It isn’t just partners that can be a covert narcissist, it can be “friends”, coaches, colleagues and family so I wanted to share in the hope it helps any of my friends who find themselves in contact with someone like this within their life right now.
… When you think of a narcissist, you probably think of someone who is an attention seeker, very confident and will manipulate anyone to get what they want and these are known as overt narcissists.
However, what you may not realize is that not all narcissists are openly manipulative and arrogant.
A covert narcissist can be even more dangerous because they don’t advertise their ego and can come across as an incredible NICE and HELPFUL person! A pillar of the community.
Here are 7 signs to help you spot the covert narcissist in your life.
1) They’re Extremely Sensitive
2) They Act Smug to Express Their Sense of Superiority
3) They Don’t Do Well with Forming Relationships
4)They Demand So Much But Give So Little
5)They’re Great at Making You Feel Sorry For Them
6)They Show a Lack of Respect to People In Private When Nice In Public
7)They Blame Everyone But Themselves
How to Deal With a Covert Narcissist…..
Whenever you meet a covert narcissist, you may, at first be wowed by their charm, but soon you’ll find that they disagree with everything you say and put you in awkward positions to defend yourself knowing you cannot possibly win the argument.
It’s best to steer clear whenever possible … You have an obligation to yourself to protect yourself and take time to heal and recover from this insidious kind of emotional abuse…” Read more about each of these 7 at Caroline Strawson: Overcoming Narcissistic Trauma on Facebook.
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